In this little article, I would like to discuss how you can change your behavior, when you change your state of mind. As a basic principle, we all know that our mind has a lot to do with our state of being. I was already told by my mother, when I was a very young boy, these principles of consciousness and awareness about the power of your mind (and thereby your reality); if you feel you are on a roll, you will be on a role. If you feel that you cannot win, you will not win. Often there are times that you can do nothing wrong. Other times you can do nothing right. But the basic fact that your mindset is the reality within you can operate is very important.
Train yourself to continue to be on a role!! Here are some findings that mean something for me and my principles of consciousness about my state of mind:
Neurophysiological state
Enabling States (builds on the positive energies we have) – Confidence, love, inner strength, ecstasy, belief – tap great wellsprings of personal power
Paralysing States (builds on the negative energies we have) – Confusion, depression, fear, sadness, angst and frustration – leaves us powerless
If you can change a state, you can change a behavior!! We need to learn how to put us into an empowering state or behavior.
Peoples needs and goals, are almost always to achieve the state that they would ideally be in. Money will assist in achieving a feeling of freedom, success and respect. This is a state and a feeling.
The key to love, power, joy is the ability to control, direct and manage your states – your mindset.
Learn to effectively run your thoughts (brain). Man has been fascinated for centuries how to alter his states:- drugs, music, sex, religion, liquor, chanting. These all have their uses and limitations and will not help you find your potential.
There is an easier way that is easier, quicker and more precise. Let us take a look on the 2 components that create the state we are in?
1 Internal representations (mind)
E.g. spouse comes home late:
If worried about accident, unconditional love, and TG he’s home. State of concern If concerned about gambling/affair…different set of behaviors. State of angry and used. Our beliefs, attitudes, values and past experiences with the person all affect the type of representations we will make about the behaviors.
2 Physiology (Body)
Muscle tension, how we breathe, what we eat, posture, overall level of biochemical functioning have a huge impact on our state.
IR and P will work together in a cybernetic loop. What will effect one will affect the other. If you’re feeling ill and tired, IR will be –ve. If you feel vibrant and on a roll, IR will be +ve.
Learn how to change 1 & 2 to achieve results.
1 and 2 determine our behavior…Verbal and Physical – what we do and say.
Since we don’t know how things really are , but only how we represent them to ourselves, represent them in a way that empowers us and others. Focus on the positive.
If we represent to ourselves that something is not going to work it will not work. If we form a representation that it will work, we create the IR’s to produce the state that will support us in producing positive results. Life is like a river, its moving. You can be at the mercy of the river, or you can steer it in a predetermined course. At the end of the day, all of us will reach the same destination…what will differ is the knowledge, satisfaction, enjoyment and added value created along the way. Always move with the tide…if you move against it, it is like pushing shit uphill. The tide is determined by the set of values and beliefs that you hold. Your behavior and actions are a result of your state. If your IR tells you are going to have an accident…you will have an accident. If your IR tells you that you will be successful, you will be successful.
The ancestor of every action is a thought.
If one changes ones beliefs and IR’s to +ve, one can achieve huge results. There is no power like the power of a positive resourceful state, for the kind of behavior people produce is the result of the state they are in. How they respond to the state they are in is based on their models of the world (the reality within they operate). Most people take little conscious effort to direct their state of mind. When people try to change something, they should not change what they do, they should start changing their state of mind, which imprisons them. So when people want to change - State change is what most people are after. They want to be in a +ve state. Believe me when I tell you that happy and successful people know how to tap into their resourceful states. You could do this as well, for you can control the state you are in. You do not have to be at the mercy of whatever comes your way. “If you refuse to get the best in life, you will always get it”
Here is the success formula, I was taught as a young boy by my mother:
“Control your thoughts they become your dreams (wishes and thereby what you strive for)
Control your dreams they become your actions
Control your actions they become your habits
Control your habits they become your destiny”
Here are some good dreams to have, some good actions to take, some good habits to build.............and hopefully a good destiny to have (these are taken from my brothers family goals):
• be grateful
• be smart
• be clean
• be true
• be positive
• be humble
• be involved
• be still
• be understanding
• be loving
• be a part
Today, you are a summery/result of all decisions and commitments you have made in life! If you want to change your behavior, you have to change your decisions and commitments, which is your “state of being”. So how do you change your output? In changing your habits………..which means changing your actions ……………….. which means changing your dreams.
So this is how it works (combining the discussed) in order to target - Know your outcome.
• Control your thoughts – they are your state of mind and ultimately decide your behavior. This is why it sais in the Tora (the oldest known spiritual and personal development scriptures known to man)”beware of your thoughts - they are the gateway to your soul”.
• Action - Take action that you believe will produce the results you desire – else your desire will always only be your dreams
• Determine habits - Develop sensory acuity to recognize the responses and results you are getting from your habits, to determine whether they are moving towards the outcome.
• Adapt and change until desired result is achieved - Develop the flexibility to change your action until you get the result you want to achieve your outcome.
Take actions to achieve your dreams and build the habits that can make them happen. Success is not a random roll of the dice. There are consistent, logical patterns of action, specific pathways of habits that lead to excellence, which are within the reach of us all. Just remember that The key, is the ability to control, direct and manage your states (yourself).
Good luck on working on your state of mind - Mark von Rosing
